(22) The Beginning of Wisdom

An Act of Surrender

“There are laws and principles that must be adhered to if you are to succeed in the arenas of marriage, parenting, personal finances, friendships, work and time management.  Some of these principles are intuitive; jother are not.  But knowing and submitting to these principles make all the difference in the world…  They inform the decision-making process.”

Can you agree in prayer together with those you are reading this book with in the prayer found on page 173?

(21) Perfecting Your Follow-Through

Painting Inside the Lines

Knowing the way things work make you better at it…

Not knowing also works the same way: It makes you less better (or worse).

If you know someone who knows more about a specific thing, then it just makes sense to get some input and take advantage of their expertise and experience so you can know more than you would alone…

(19) Everybody’s Business

You Might as Well Ask

It may be nobody else’s business, but everyone else is going to know.  And be honest – you have an opinion about things about other people they do at times…    Even though it is nobody’s business what you do, our decisions are very rarely private.

So the thought by Andy for you to consider is:  If folks will know eventually anyway, why not get some input from some folks you trust to help you with that decision as you are making it.  You may make a better decision with a little help from some more experienced folks.


(18) Knowing What You Don’t Know

The Best Kept Secret

There is a rule of thumb for wise men and women which they use when they come up against their limitations…   (Page 138 has a sampling)

There is something we should not leave home without…  (pg 140)


(17) Hide and Seek

What to Do When You Don’t Know what to Do

What to do when you asked the question, yet there are still more options than just one?


Some things important to consider:  (Read it on page 130 and 131)


So what about when you reached your limit and you just can’t figure out the right answer?   (What does page 133 say?)  There is an answer that can make you a wise person, even if you don’t know the answer…

(16) Flee!

The Wisdom of Flight

In Paul’s letter to the Christians living in the city of Corinth, a city known for its tolerance of sexual impropriety, he penned these words…

Actually Andy quoted in a way that sounded more like what we do than what the scripture actually says and then says: “Just kidding”   Paul does talk on the subject but in a very different way than the way we often do.   Paul makes it clear that we are to “flee” to “run really fast in the opposite direction”.




(15) Extreme Measures

Playing It Safe

Where’s the line, so I know where not to cross?

Snuggle up to the line just don’t cross right!

Andy says:  If the speed limit is fifty-five miles per hour, I drive fifty-five miles per hour.  If my thoughts drift and I found myself roaring down highway at sixty miles per hour, no harm done.  I just ease off the gas.  When I was sixteen and my curfew was midnight, I tried to time it so that I arrived home right at midnight.  I gave myself no margin for error. (A few minutes late… no great crisis.)

But when you cross certain lines, there are consequences that sometimes last for the rest of your life…  can cause loss of a spouse, loss of living in the same house with your children full time.  It can have many other physical and psychological and relational baggage that will be part of what you must carry along with you for the following years of your life…

How long does it take to cross such a line?  How different is that from driving 5 miles/hr over the speed limit or getting home 15 minutes late.  Often there is a good reason for these things, even forgetful may work.  Is there any real excuse for crossing a line that has to do with moral issues?   Did it really happen by accident or a series of bad choices?

(14) Life Rules

Living Far from the Edge

Every poor moral decision is prefaced by a series of unwise choices.

What is too much caution when it comes to preventative policy?

What kind of good sense preventative policy do you wish you had started long ago?  ( You don’t have to give a public answer, just honestly consider it as a personal pondering question and answer yourself truthfully to see if you can be honest in your thinking to yourself…  really, say it to yourself, confess it and acknowledge an unwise choice or two or many more if they come to mind.)

What kind of good sense preventative policy would be good to launch with this new way of looking at edge walking vs solid footing on safe ground walking?